Today's post is written by one of my favourite organising pros, Valerie Petersen from Inner-B. Thank you Val! You can find out more about Valerie and check out the Inner-B website by clicking on the links at the end of the post :)
Falling in love is one of those magical moments in life - the butterflies, the tingling touch, the heart racing and the painted on smile. You go for outings, live in holiday mode and do all those spare of the moment things only possible pre-kids.
Once you become a parent all of sudden things change - and change dramatically. As soon as Isabella was born I felt like I was flung into a parallel universe, where it was almost impossible to organise anything let alone find time alone with my partner.
At one point our lives were purely based on work, parenting and everyday life pressures. As we juggled these roles, we finally realised we needed to make a change and bring back the fun we somehow lost along the way.
Finding the time to connect with your partner is often a hard thing to do. Even when you do get `‘free time’’ you often fill it up with something… anything. You start to miss out on quality time together.
Like most things in life, relationships need to be nurtured . Nowadays, we `‘plan’’ and `‘schedule’’ in time to spend together, because if we don’t it’s just not going to happen.
Date nights or date days are now part of our everyday life. It’s something we both look forward to. To make it a little more exciting we took the envelope surprise idea and chose six “surprise” date nights each. These were put inside the envelope and every month we take turns opening one throughout the year.
Seeing a movie is great, but we decided to make our date nights a little more adventurous and different. Some activities are jam packed with excitement, while others are relaxing and romantic. This is exactly how I would describe our relationship.
So far we’ve done everything from rock climbing, Masterchef at-home dinners, Latin dancing and open air cinema. It’s basically a new age way of organising our love life.
Date nights don’t have to be expensive. One of my favorite dates was grabbing a rug, cushion, book and heading off to the park. As part of Valentine’s Day, we’ve chosen kayaking on Sydney Harbour, which has meant a little more planning and budgeting for costs.
If you’re finding it hard to come up with ideas on what to do, here are a few that may get your creative juices flowing:
- Gourmet picnic
- Bike ride
- Masterchef at home
- Learn to cook classes
- Bush walk
- Tourist in your own town for the day
- Country/city drive
- Visit the Museum or Art gallery
- Have lunch somewhere you have never been before
- Rock climbing indoor or outdoor
- Go dancing
- Comedy show
- Musical or play
It’s Valentine’s Day this Tuesday and love is certainly in the air. Creating your own envelope surprises may be a great way to start dating your partner again.
Inner-B director, organising educator and Sydney mum Valerie Petersen has been planning her life with style for as long as she can remember. Valerie is now a sought-after course facilitator, lecturer and public speaker, conducts engaging, motivational workshops for the corporate and retails sectors on organising your life and runs a successful blog at http://www.inner-b.com.au. You can connect with Valerie on Facebook here and Twitter here.