If you’re always tired, even after a full night’s sleep - you’re not lazy, unmotivated, or doing it wrong. You’re a mum. And between the mental load, constant multitasking, and never-ending to-do list, it's no wonder you're exhausted. Here's how to get your energy back, little by little, with small changes that actually fit your life.
Start by checking in with your basic needs.
- Are you drinking enough water?
- Eating proper meals (not just leftover crusts)?
- Getting a few minutes of fresh air each day?
These seem simple, but when you’re looking after everyone else, it’s easy to skip the basics.
Next, look at where your energy is going. Mental load is a sneaky drain, remembering appointments, planning meals, thinking three steps ahead.
Try offloading some of it by using checklists, planners, or shared digital calendars (I just use my Google one - it syncs with my phone and computer). Getting it all out of your head helps free up mental space and makes things feel more manageable.
If you can, build in short rest breaks. Not a full nap (though that would be lovely) but at least five minutes with your feet up, some quiet music, or just sitting in silence. When you don't have time for a proper break, a micro one helps your nervous system reset.
You might also be tired from constant overstimulation. Noise, mess, screens, lights - modern motherhood is a sensory overload. Take mini breaks from the noise when you can. A little walk outside, a quite spot in your home to retreat to (even if it's the bathroom), or simply popping in air pods and playing calming sounds can make a big difference.
And of course, give yourself permission to do less. You don’t need to say yes to everything. You don’t need to get it all done in one day. Some of the tiredness comes from the pressure - internal and external - to be everything to everyone. But your rest matters too.
You might still feel tired some days but little by little, when you start meeting your own needs alongside everyone else's, you’ll feel more grounded, more energised, and more like YOU again 💖
Let me know this goes for you! And if you'd like more tips like this, check out The Busy Mum's Guide to Making Life Easier.
x Marissa
